No More Proving, Just Living: The Quiet Freedom of Middle Age

Bernard, one of Virginia Woolf’s fictional characters in The Waves (1931), offers this hauntingly relatable monologue Things have dropped from me. I have outlived certain desires…I am not so gifted as at one time seemed likely. Certain things lie beyond my scope. I shall never understand the harder problems of philosophy. Rome is the limit … Read more

The Quiet Comfort of the Natural Order of Things

Let us accept the natural order in which we move. Let us reconcile ourselves to the mysterious rhythm of our destinies, such as they must be in this world of space and time. Let us treasure our joys but not bewail our sorrows. Winston Churchill It’s been a difficult few weeks. Talk of cancer—multiple diagnoses—has … Read more

Modaks, Meals, and Missed Opportunities—An Ode to Food

The source of all pleasures is the satisfaction of the stomach. Epicurus I’m exhausted already—even before I start writing, because I’ve spent too much time eating (carb-loading). Now I’m in a full-on food coma. It occurs to me now that if only I had spent even a tenth of the time I’ve spent thinking about … Read more

The Link Between Identity and Impostor Syndrome

It may sound odd, but in this era of lifestyle vloggers, social media influencers, and ubiquitous life coaches who seem to have it all figured out, talking about impostor syndrome feels out of place. And yet, if we tune into the people we meet IRL (in real life—not the curated highlight reels online), we’ll see … Read more

When Hobbies Start to Feel Like Work

If you asked me what I like to do to unwind, I wouldn’t hesitate to rattle off a list: run, read, write, play my instrument, and cook (sometimes). Every single one of these is something I voluntarily do—something I wouldn’t hesitate to say I “enjoy” doing. And yet, for a couple of weeks, I couldn’t … Read more

Seven Takeaways from The Daily Routines of Creative Geniuses

I’ve always been fascinated by the daily routines of famous people. When it comes to exciting things, learning about someone’s daily habits ranks somewhere closer to seeing my favorite band live than sitting through a timeshare presentation. A glimpse into someone’s routine offers a sense of what sets them apart from the rest of us, … Read more

The All-or-Nothing Mentality Is a Trap

The all-or-nothing mindset is the equivalent of saying, ‘If I can’t win, I’m just going to take my ball and go home. Okay, so you took the advice to set SMART goals and got very specific. You commit to running 3 miles a day, 5 days a week, strength training for 20 minutes on alternate … Read more

The Parable of the Second Arrow: A Lesson in Focus and Presence

There’s a famous Buddhist parable about the second arrow. The parable invokes a vivid metaphor: imagine walking through a serene forest when suddenly, you are struck by an arrow. The sharp pain you feel is undeniable—this represents the first arrow, the unavoidable hardships of life; most of the time, you have no control over such … Read more

The Art of Delegation: How to Beat Overwhelm

The Art of Delegation is saying, ‘You’ve got this,’ while quietly hoping they really do. We have 32 teeth. Fewer if, like me, you had an overeager dentist growing up—but that’s a story for another day. Now, think back to everything you ate yesterday. How much of that could you have managed to consume if … Read more

The Secret to Progress: Never Skip a Day

Never skip a day unless you enjoy starting over… again… and again. For those who don’t know what it means to rewind a cassette tape with a pencil, the name Jack LaLanne may be a mystery. LaLanne, a pioneer in the fitness industry, was renowned for his unwavering commitment to daily exercise and healthy living. … Read more

My Top Ten Books of the Year – 2024 Edition

Thomas Jefferson once said, “I cannot live without books.” I wholeheartedly agree—but I find more and more that I can live with many unread and unfinished ones. 2024 was a rough year for my reading habits. I found myself starting many books, only to abandon them midway, either because the story meandered or, more likely … Read more

Reflections: Ten Takeaways from the Year

One of the things I like to do as the end of the year draws closer is to reflect on the lessons learned during the year. In this post, I list ten takeaways that stood out for me this year. Some sound profound. Few are mundane. Honestly, many of these lessons aren’t new—life seems intent … Read more