After a catastrophe occurs, you might hear someone say, “I knew all along this was going to happen.” When you hear those words, you don’t need to get all worked up and let go of your otherwise calm, unflappable demeanor! Instead, you only have to say to the one-who-knew-all-along, “No, you didn’t. You are exhibiting … Read more

I have transformed in many ways from how I was younger. One thing that hasn’t really changed much over the years, though, is my patience. Or rather, lack of it. Not that I’m impatient or anything. I just don’t like the waiting part. That said, I’m making a renewed effort now to tackle this persistent … Read more

Adam Grant called “languishing” the emotion of the pandemic year. I’m not surprised. If I had a gauge or a device that measured my motivation, it would probably fluctuate between zero and none. We all get a case of the blahs every so often. This article is about what we can do to recover from … Read more

Like many, I used to think of myself as a fairly rational person who made most decisions based on objective facts. I now realize that assumption is just one more example of the kinds of stories we tell ourselves. I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them … Read more

With our everyone-is-special, participation-trophy culture and the fact that, in 2013, “selfie” was named word of the year, the time is ripe for a good dose of narcissism-removing reality check. Understanding the earth revolves around the sun and not around us is a lesson best learned sooner rather than later. Pencil-sharpener Captain One day, years … Read more

In a Scottish poem, ‘To a Mouse,’ Robert Burns wrote, “The best-laid schemes o’ Mice an’ Men gang aft agley.” Which translates to “The best-laid schemes of mice and men often go awry.” When things don’t go to plan, we can either hope the plan somehow will magically work itself out or figure out ways … Read more

In 1982, HG Brown published a book titled Having It All: Love, Success, Sex, Money…even if you’re starting with nothing. The phrase “having it all” has since evolved to represent whether women can have both—glowing family life and an equally stellar career, a topic of intense debate worldwide. Twelve Superwomen An editorial published in the … Read more

Almost every knowledge discipline relies on us having a fundamental grasp of logical reasoning; however, it’s not a subject we’re taught in school. In 1995, NY Times published a story with the headline “An Argument, A Shooting, A Fatal Crash of a Plane.” The headline succinctly described what had taken place. An ex-pilot who worked … Read more

If you can’t decide whether the new pair of shoes you’re trying on in the store look good on you and have to turn to Instagram to confirm with your followers, then you’re clearly a victim to the curse of social validation. Social proof has always existed, but when our self-esteem ebbs and flows based … Read more

It’s no secret I’m a self-help junkie. So, when I heard phrases such as “find your calling” or “do what you love,” I couldn’t help but take them seriously. After years of trial and error, I have reached one simple conclusion. A lot of advice comes from a place of privilege and carries the stench … Read more

Having two or more of everything, “just in case”, does not signify great planning. It points to poor decision-making. Simplify your life. It’s easy to complicate things but genius is in keeping it simple and stupid. Diamonds and other baubles On Nov 1, 1972, the New York Times published an article that began with this … Read more

Instead of minding our own businesses, why do we “waste” time discussing others’ comings and goings? Shouldn’t we be solving the hard problem of consciousness instead of commenting on Lady Gaga’s red carpet appearance (she literally seemed to have worn the red carpet instead of just walking on one) at the last Presidential inauguration? Read … Read more

While not an official health condition, Shiny Object Syndrome (SOS) can inflict significant pain and remorse. But like with most other health conditions, an ounce of prevention here is worth a pound of cure. Alisha stops by five times on her way to the park to pick up fallen twigs and flowers and once to … Read more

After an hour of doomscrolling on my phone, I switched gears to doomscroll on Netflix, instead. That’s when I stopped to watch a documentary (mockumentary?) on the power of affirmations. I saw folks claiming to have transitioned from genuinely desperate situations—serious emotional, financial, or relationship troubles—into becoming happy, thriving individuals. They attributed the change in … Read more

The fastest, guaranteed way to go from being happy and contented to becoming miserable and gloomy is by comparing yourself to others. So why do we indulge in such comparisons, and how do we rid ourselves of this tendency? Let’s start with an incident from 1995—a bank robbery that led to a critical behavioral psychology … Read more